7 Subtle Ways You Are Being Ignored
And some phrases to get your point across
Being ignored is akin to screaming in an echoed room.
Your voice appears to reverberate around the walls, but you’re the only one that hears what you’re saying. The louder you scream, the more lost your voice gets. Inevitably, you want to grab the other person by the shoulders and shake some sense into them. Unfortunately, that would probably make things worse.
First, you need to identify the signs.
1. Their Response Doesn’t Make Sense
Have you ever looked at someone and felt like question marks were appearing above you?
A response that has next to no correlation with what you’re saying shows they are stumbling their way through the conversation. More than anything, it demonstrates that they are not listening.
A phrase to help
- “You’re not listening to me. Please see where I am coming from.”
This way, you are politely assertive. Any further, and you may piss them off.
2. You Repeat Yourself On More Than One Occasion
Feeling like a broken record is tedious.
When I’ve lived with people in my early university days, I became stuck in the same argument for months. I couldn’t understand why I was suddenly ostracized, and a few of my flatmates ended up ignoring me altogether.
You may find you continuously question the same problem in your head.
You need clarity.
A phrase to help
- “I am done repeating myself.”
Then, proceed to explain the problem you’re having. In my university experience, I ended up venting my frustrations. It felt great — I went on a rant and left the group chat.
I was finally free to think about something else again.
3. They Repeat Phrases Such As: “I don’t want to offend anyone, but…”
What was it Benjen Stark told Jon Snow in Game of Thrones?
