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The Two-Step Method to Becoming Who You Want to Be
Use identity-based habits.
Most people don’t know who they want to be. One week you’re a vegan, the next you are a fully-fledged carnivore once again (yeah, that happened to me).
The problem you have is you’re outcome-based. Now, that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Having a goal to work toward can be a driving factor in your journey to self-discovery or whatever it is you want. However, it isn’t a long term solution.
Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy’s research has shown that you are more likely to put yourself down because of unattainable goals. She says that the average person will find more success and happiness if they shoot for just down the block instead of the moon. Long term thinking, short term planning.
Sure, you can have lofty targets, but implementing a series of attainable habits will lead you in the right direction. In two-steps, you can unlock the ability to do just that, and become who you want to be.
Step 1: Decide the type of person you want to be
The problem you have is you want to be something, but you don’t want to be someone. Say you want to be in better shape. You tell yourself “I want to be fitter”, but you don’t believe it. That is because you feel it isn’t a part of your…
